(delivered at Sof this week)
I’ve organized my drosh for today around two song lyrics. I’ll tell you about the second one later. The first is from one of my favorite musicians, Tom Waits, who says in one of his songs: “The large print giveth, the small print taketh away.” Reading this parshah, right at the tail end of the torah, I feel very much that we are very much being given the small print: “inhaling fumes may cause vomiting, do not remove this tag unless owner, Improper use of dye may cause bleaching, try on a small, unseen sample first”
More seriously, though, this parshah poses a dilemma for us: its phrasing suggests that we follow God’s law for instrumental reasons: Do what I say, and you will be rewarded, disobey and you will be punished. Read literally, this parshah suggests that Judaism is ultimatly a back room deal, three of my quids for two of your quo. I suspect most of us find this troubling, for at least three reasons. First, because it reminds us that a part of our religion that did (and does) see worshipping God in these illiberal terms. Second, it implies that we should stop being Jewish if we found a more efficient means of achieving prosperity, and thirdly because, well, I’m sure we all realize there a lot easier things to do than Judaism. How can we understand a parshah that seems to so cheapen our faith? How can we recover the image of God as someone or something we love, respect, and stand in awe of, rather than someone who pays us an allowance when we do our chores?
One possible answer came to me recently when I met a family friend for lunch. She was raised an observant household, but stopped practicing as an adult, married an atheist. Then she had a daughter and bang! she found herself wanting to give her daughter some sort of Jewish upbringing. But how? Her folks were thousands of miles away on the mainland, and her husband was hostile to religion. Over poke we mulled over the question: if you could only do one or two things to raise a child Jewish, just something to give them enough of an anchor in our tradition that they could use later on in life, what would it be?
Here’s what I came up with: making shabbos and hearing people leiyn torah. I’ve thought it over, of course — turning small, impressionable children into observant jews is something that has been on my mind a lot lately for reasons that are currently drooling off on the stage right side of the congregation. When my wife and I first had our children, everyone at sof encouraged us to bring the kids to shul, no matter how old they were. They did it with great warmth. Well, to be honest, they did it with great force, really, is the term I’d use. This was a problem for us because we were totally exhausted and looking for someone to tell us it was ok to skip shul and take the day off. As a result we had conversations like this:
“You should feel free to come to shul. We won’t be bothered. I used to sit in the back and nurse my kid. In fact I gave birth, took a shower, and then proceeded directly to high holiday services, where I sang hineini and did the yom kippur amidah completely from memory.”
“Well, we’re really tired right now, we’re not sure we’re up for a whole service”
“You know you don’t have to sit in the sanctuary. Maybe you could just bring the kids and sit in the child care room”
“Maybe. We’re really tired though. Really tired.”
“You could always just drive up to sof and sit in the parking lot for a little bit — you know, just so the kids could look at the shul for a while.”
“My kids can’t see anything that’s more than a milk bottle’s length away from them.”
“Well why not just sit in your car in the driveway of your house with the engine turned off and think about shul for a while then?”
This is what we were up against: the incotrovertible fact that being Jewish is doing Jewish.
Being Jewish is doing jewish. Most people — I mean Christians — think of Judaism as a legalistic religion, a hide bound and inflexible carrying out of meaningless and incomprehensible rituals in a dead language, etc. etc. They say this about us to make them feel better about their supposedly more emotionally immediate and flexible faith. That is why they skip parshah like Ki Tavo: they think it’s the fine print, the perfect example of Jewish legalism and a punitive, Mosaic god. But we Jews know, as Jonathan Sacks so wonderfully put it, that ritual is to the soul what exercise is to the body. And that is why my second song lyric is from Ice Cube’s superb first solo album, 1990s “Amerikka’s Most Wanted”. On that album, Ice Cube argues that the inevitability of the future lethal violence that he will unleash against his enemies is “not a threat but a promise/I’m as crazy as they come see/ momma didn’t love me.” He then goes on to describe his nine millimeter pistol. But that’s not the important thing. The important thing is that we see ki tavo not as a threat, but a promise, an empirical statement about human flourishing and how it happens.
Judaism has strange, unintended consequences. Food taboos are an example. What sort of loving deity could deny us bacon? Why these hukkim? A well-meaing non-jewish friend of mine asked me this once. Exasperated to be asked this yet again, replied: “because everytime I go to a restaurant and look up at the menu, I know who I am. When was the last time something happened that made you say: I know who I am?”
I know who I am. There are two things to say about this. First, I can’t be a very classy guy if the only kind of restaurant I go to is the kind where the menu is directly above the head of the person waiting to take my order. Second, Judaism as a way of life is engineered to promote human flourishing. It rewards us and leads to prosperity — not because if we study torah God sends an angel to tell our boss to give us a raise, but because — wait for it — charity, good deeds and lovingkindess are good, but the study of torah is equal to them all because it leads to them all. And not because of God has the power to shape the universe, but because we do.
God’s self-limiting love for Israel (as Rabbi Hartmann puts it): That is why I suggested to my friend that her daughter listen to people chanting torah, and why you all suggested I sit in the drive way and think about shul. I mean how crazy is chanting torah? You’re siting there reading something without vowels or cantillation marks to a room full of people who can double-check all the mistakes you make. It’s the one person without the parshah who has to read it to everyone else! I mean just to get out alive you’ve got to keep a tikkun in your house to learn the trope. And then to really understand the trope you’ve got to understand the grammar, and then after you finally learn some Hebrew you’ve got to read what the torah actually says and I mean by the time you’ve done that the damn thing is basically engraved on your heart and…. hey… wait a sec…
I think it must be hard — or at least tiring — for God to have to explain things to people. I mean, she’s God. And we are not. I have trouble explaining to my students how language forms the horizon of a hermeneutic phenomenology, and she get stuck answering questions like “so you ordered the universe how?” I imagine God saying “Well it’s kinda…. I mean, it’s complicated, but… basically, well I separated the earth from the sky. I mean, that’s not really right, but well, and then I guess you could say, basically, I was over the waters, like hovering I guess you could call it…” The end of the torah, like the beginning, is God levelling with us — talking turkey, the straight dope — telling us the truth, even though we may not be ready to understand it.
In his essay “Jewish Continuity and How to Achieve it” Rabbi Sacks asks what anchors Jewish identity. Not ethnicity, he says, since we’re now from all over. Not a love of Jewish culture, since lots of people (including nonjews) love jewish culture. Cultural connoissieurship is different from memebrship in an am. No, he says, what makes us Jewish is ultimately a religious commitment — and there’s no way around that. I think Sacks is just now figuring out what God tells us in this parshah — that judaism is a way of life which is designed to be good, even if at times we don’t understand why. Its to our credit, and God’s, that we get a chance to hear — and try to understand — an explanation.
Shabbat Shalom.